I managed to find a client for my first supervised coach class: DF has agreed to do it. I am really glad because it is providing me with the opportunity to pickup on the relationship we just created during our course in Ohio.
I really looks like things turn out for the best, after all. I had a conversation with her and it served to get my sensation of not having spoken up about buddy coaching out in the open. My conversations with her leave me energized, but at times a bit wound up… but in a “positive” sort of way, as if I was saying: I wish I had had more time to talk to her. It’s peculiar, with both of us being high D in the DISC assessment, I would think we would tend to clash, and perhaps we would have, at a younger age.
I mentioned to her that I felt challenged by V. being my buddy coach, and she says she feels that it is not a good match, that he will not provide me with the challenge I need. I know what she means, and in a way I agree with her. But I do believe that I will be challenged in one particular way: the way I have least worked on myself. And that is, in being patient around people that need a lot of comforting, hand-holding and that come across as particularly emontionally needy.
I think this is the thing for me right now, or at least, this is the way I think that I have the greatest room to grow. I am not sure I can grow much more on being intellectually centered or rational. But I have a lot to learn about bonding and creating rapport with people.
There is an underlying judgement being made by me, when I meet people that I consider that belong to that category, or that go around in circles, etc. And it is something that gets in the way of my coaching: I am not listening but having opinions, judgements, and taking a stand a bit off the playing field. So perhaps V has been sent my way to teach me something. Whether it is how to adequately interact with people just like him, or learn that there are some people with whom I do not do well, it remains to be seen.
What does this have to do with ICA and Supervised Coach? Well, by meeting the people I met at the Ohio course, I realised how much I need to develop my way of relating to others, not to be abrasive or grating, and this is something I can incorporate into my coaching (and hopefully into my Supervised Coach). I will go to bed with the ICF core competencies… and wait for tomorrow!
